Am I my brothers keeper?Sometimes keeping a friends secret is not the right thing to do. It is TRUTH that sets people free, not silence. Sometimes the right thing to do is to tell a pastor, a teacher, a parent or a spouse. But, you say, I might get them “in trouble”. You might, or you might expose them and their situation to someone who can help, someone who knows what to do, someone who has the resources and wherewithal to help them fix it or at least walk with them out of their darkness and into the light. Because that’s the thing, anything that is hidden in the darkness, grows, strengthens and festers. What starts out as a personality “quirk”, a destructive habit or a dangerous flirtation, can turn into a full blown addiction/bondage/downward spiral.
I’m not saying that we should be blabbing everyone’s business everywhere, social media is full of too much of that already. What I am saying is that the next time someone comes to you and says “I need to tell you something but only if you promise to keep it a secret”, don’t give them that promise. The next time someone displays behavior that you know in your gut is wrong or hurtful or destructive,and you don’t know what to do, say something, go to someone, find help. It could be the kindest most loving thing you can do.
So, what do you think? Are you your brothers keeper?